If it ever seems like your autistic child is refusing to listen to you or has the magical ability to totally ignore everything you say, there are a few things that could be going on…
- They're a kid. Kids have been ignoring parents since kids and parents were a thing…they just kinda do that.
- Their autism (or ADHD) makes it hard to switch gears and focus on you and your voice when they’re already engaged in another activity.
- They literally can’t hear you because they have hearing loss.
- Their brain is struggling to translate the sounds their ears hear into information it can recognize and act on.
I know that supporting your child's unique auditory needs can feel like a complex puzzle, but fear not!
This article will provide you with guidance, insights, and practical strategies to help you and your kiddo thrive, no matter what’s going on with their ears…let’s jump in!
Understanding Auditory Processing Disorder
Auditory Processing Disorder (APD) is a condition that alters how the brain processes, interprets, and reacts to sound. It does seem to happen more frequently in kids with autism. While it may have a basis in the child’s sensory system and sensitivities, APD is its own separate condition that affects their ability to hear and respond in an appropriate and timely manner.
In the context of autism, many children experience challenges in auditory processing, making it crucial for parents to be well-informed and proactive in supporting their child's auditory development. Especially since the inability to hear and respond appropriately often makes it difficult for autistic children to develop the language skills they need to effectively communicate…which can be another factor that contributes to meltdowns and you and your child struggling.
The Impact of Hearing Loss
Hearing loss, whether mild or severe, can further complicate things for autistic children. It's important to recognize the impact hearing loss may have on their communication, social interactions, and overall development.
The signs of autism are actually very similar to the signs of hearing loss in a young child.
Many pediatric autism specialists won't even diagnose a child with autism until they’ve had a full hearing workup by a pediatric audiologist for this reason. So it’s very likely that you’ve known about your child’s hearing loss well before you received their autism diagnosis.
Where To Go For Help
Your child was probably screened for hearing loss as an infant. And ideally, they’ve had hearing checks with their pediatrician every few years as part of their well-child checks. But that doesn’t mean something like a bad ear infection, serious allergies, or an accident didn’t disrupt their ability to hear properly.
If you suspect any type of auditory challenges for your child, seeing a pediatric audiologist is the first step you should take.
From there, they’ll be able to determine if there is any type of hearing loss. If the child is over a certain age threshold (usually around age eight or nine), they can diagnose your child with Auditory Processing Disorder.
But why do you have to wait to get the diagnosis until they’re that old?!
The reason for that relates to what I mentioned at the top of the article…sometimes, it really is just kids being kids and ignoring you!
Either way, understanding your child’s unique auditory needs is the first step toward providing the support they deserve.
Creating a Supportive Environment
Creating a supportive auditory environment is key to nurturing your child's development. Consider implementing strategies like reducing background noise, using visual cues to supplement verbal communication, and ensuring good acoustic conditions in their learning and living spaces. Noise-canceling headphones can also be a lifesaver!
Your child may benefit from having an FM system even if they don’t require a hearing aid to adjust their hearing to normal levels. Parent-to-parent tip: be mindful of what you’re doing (and saying) while you’re wearing the microphone of an FM system while it’s transferring information to your child’s earpiece. I learned that lesson the hard way…ahem.
Also, therapeutic music, such as The Listening Program can work wonders for autistic kids with or without hearing loss and APD. My family used this program for years and it was very helpful for both of my kids.
Communication Strategies
Effective communication is vital in supporting children with autism, auditory processing disorder, and/or hearing loss.
Use clear and concise language, allow extra processing time (this one is HUGE), and provide visual supports whenever possible. Embrace alternative communication methods like sign language or augmentative and alternative communication (AAC) systems, if needed. Your speech therapist can help make recommendations and support you and your child as you learn to use your new communication device.
Remember that an inability to effectively communicate is one of the most frustrating things for many autistic people!
When you add in the additional communication challenges they’ll endure because of hearing loss or APD, it becomes even more critical that you fund effective communication strategies that work.
Collaboration and Advocacy
Collaboration and advocacy are essential components of your journey as an autism parent (if you weren't already aware). Work closely with speech-language pathologists, audiologists, and other professionals who specialize in autism, auditory processing disorder, and hearing loss.
This also includes your child’s teachers if they’re school-aged! You will most likely need to get your child an IEP or 504 plan to ensure they receive the appropriate accommodations while at school.
Together, you can develop individualized plans, access appropriate interventions, and empower your child to thrive.
Empathy and Understanding
Above all, approach your child's journey with empathy and understanding. Be their advocate, their cheerleader, and their support system. With your love and unwavering commitment, they can overcome obstacles and embrace their full potential.
But be sure you turn some of that empathy and understanding back toward yourself!
Parenting a kiddo who is autistic and also deals with hearing issues is hard. You need to ensure you make time for self-care so that resentment and anger don’t turn you into a Martyr Mom (or Dad)...
Conclusion
You are an amazing parent! By understanding the intersection of autism, auditory processing disorder, and hearing loss, you're now equipped with the knowledge, skills, and strategies you need to support your child.
Embrace the journey, celebrate every milestone, and remember to take care of yourself along the way. Together, we can create a world that embraces and empowers every child's unique abilities.
Disclaimer: This article provides general information and support. It's essential to consult with qualified healthcare professionals for personalized advice and guidance. This article is not medical advice, and should not be treated as such.
This article is part of our series on Autism and Co-Occurring Conditions…check back on August 2, 2023, to view the complete collection.
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